What we search for lies within us

A page from my life about my situation last year. Written in the second half of 2016, this was about most difficult times I endured then. A lot has changed since. My attitude towards life and everything has changed. Here’s a look at what I’d felt before I realised few things and learned few life lessons. 

In the most difficult of times, we lose ourselves only to find the real one was hiding inside us all along. 

The reality is I lost my confidence, was completely clueless, my mind gave in to those terrible feelings of emptiness, of hopelessness. I detest those feelings. I was waiting for that ‘someday’ when everything would be ‘fine’. I was living in the illusion that everything has an end, a full stop to it. I didn’t feel like eating. I started feeling strange in the stomach. At one point, I just couldn’t feel happy even if I wanted to. I lost interest in any activity, including writing. Let’s just say my pen couldn’t bleed words no matter how much I tried. And so, I gave up writing. But this sounds unbelievable, right? I know why. Because somehow, smile can lie, but eyes cannot.

I always believed in this: what we search for, lies within us. 

I didn’t lose one thing while everything else was slipping from my hand. I held onto it. That was this little hope within hopelessness, faith that it’ll change, that I want to change. And I took control of my mind. I tried not surrendering to it. I tried to muster up all courage that I had to try and try to change this reality. Believe me, it works. It works wonder. Yes, it takes time. Loads of time. To surrender to time is better than to give in to mind. And I did that.

And now, I’m getting my confidence back. I’m becoming the transformed version of myself. In the past few days, life has turned around for me. No, it’s not a happy ending. But I’m happy. I’ve never been this happy in the 20 years of my life. No, life’s not perfect. It’s not all fine. I still have to fight. So, what’s making me feel so happy?

All of a sudden, I’ve gained such realisations. I’ve learned far more in the past couple of months than I ever have. Yes, adversities can be beautiful. Every second of pain, of fighting, of losing hope and still standing in the battlefield, of trying to handle both emotions and physical pain, of living this reality, of trying to find flame bright enough to light up my hopes, of trying to feel like myself, is a moment I’d cherish forever. Yes, I’m blessed not only because I’m alive, but because I’ve finally found who I am. While my heart was never satisfied with the answer to this question earlier, it now feels it’s found the right answer.

I haven’t lost anything. And I’d say this a million times that I’m happy to have gone through all this. I’m going to fight this all the way till the end. Instead of waiting for that ‘someday’, I’m living it everyday. Instead of trying to find a full stop, I’ve accepted that there can be commas and semicolons and that they’re beautiful. Instead of desiring a ‘normal’ and ‘perfect’ life, I’d like to live the new one. Instead of all ‘sugar, spice and everything nice’, I’d like to live this life of surprises. I don’t want to go back to the old life because what I’ve gained cannot be traded for all the perfection that was my life. To have met all the people along this way who made me feel so motivated has been such a blessing. To believe in myself, to become my own light is beautiful. And amongst so many lessons that I’ve learned and am going to, I can confidently say that I love this uniqueness of having to fight this battle alone.

Those scars that I have will always echo stories. And most importantly, my faith has only increased and taught what it means to be fearless, to live in the now, to be happy, to be a fighter.

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Seher

There are nights that are darker than others and sleep is a distant dream. Thoughts fill the night and there’s something to wonder. How do you live with something that is constantly trying to kill you? It’s taken some time to find the answer, but here’s a theory. You live with what ruins you from the inside, but insteading of fighting it, you embrace it. You embrace the cracks it has and fill it with love. How can you love something that kills you? You can. It’s a battle and you have to fight. You have to be a survivor. You have to keep going, because winning isn’t always about defeating the other, it’s also about embracing the fall and still not giving up. It’s about constant state of war where you’re still living. Winning is about surviving. As long as you’re fighting, you’re alive. Aren’t you one of those lucky ones who get their own battles to fight? Of course, you should be happy because it’s about being the one chosen strong enough to fight. Everyone is strong enough to fight their battles. Wear your scars as an honour. Wear your wounds as a medal. There’s so much to love about this battle and we’re just beginning. There’s something to love about the morning that follows too. Every day is a new one. Maybe in the morning your scars, wounds, and pain may shine like a star and it’ll be that wonderful day whn you realise that you’ve lived. 

– Bezubaan (Coming soon)

Tough times

Tough times are priceless, for they teach lessons that no one can, bring true people to you, and show who’s there to stay. No matter how long the phase maybe, it’ll instill a new kind of freedom once it passes. It’s always better to let go of anything that obstructs this evolution and to rejuvenate. Trust time, it shall take away the pain and leave beautiful memories to paint the canvas with.